Unleash the power of your mind
Weather/Traffic/ Moods of people......what is the one thing among these that we can have control over? None I suppose, because it is not in our hands to control them BUT YES we can control our emotions and feelings against these through having control over our mind.
"A man who rules his mind rules the world"
How rightly said! Whether it is Physical vitality/Enthusiasm /Self confidence, any thing that is required to succeed in life depends mainly on our mental fitness and our mental agility. Because success on the outside starts with success in the inside. All our success depends on the 12 pounds mass sitting between our shoulders. This 12 pounds mass has lots of potential, lots of positive energy.Every individual is born with the same raw material, then why is it that some of them succeed, some become achievers and some don't? It all depends on how you refine that raw material and how you use it i.e. how you tap the immense potential of your mind and how you use your mind effectively.
Our mind is just like any other muscle of our body and when it comes to'muscles' it is rightly said 'You use it or you loose it' this means that you have to exercise your muscles or else they grow weak.
For ex. if you want to strengthen the muscles of your hand you have to train them, if you want to toughen your leg muscles you have to exert them, etc.
In the same way we can strengthen our mind through certain simple methods like 'Self awareness', 'Mental training', Mental Imaging', and of course a few breathing exercises.
Every thing starts with our thoughts. The quality of our Life is directly proportional to the quality of our thoughts. As Winston Churchill stated that "Price of greatness is to have responsibility over EACH of your thoughts.
" Thoughts act like seeds in the garden of our minds."As you sow, so shall you reap'. If you sow positive thoughts then the result is definitely going to be positive and if you sow thoughts of doubt then life may seem uncertain and the harvest may include questions such as 'Can I succeed' , Will I ever be good enough' , etc.
Negative thoughts lead to negative energy and that in turn causes diseases, destroys relationships andmakes you ineffective.If you hope to make a remarkable improvement in your outer world you need tof irst start within and change the caliber of your thoughts. Because the quality of your thinking determines the quality of your life.
SELF AWARENESS/SELF MASTERY: "Knowing others is intelligence: knowing yourself is wisdom. Mastering others is strength:mastering yourself is true power." Selfawareness is becoming aware of each and every thought. Become your own observer, learn to watch your thoughts coming and going like clouds in the sky,watch how each emotion rises and falls like the waves of the oceans.
As you grow in self awareness, you will better understand why you feel what you feel and why you behave as you behave. That understanding then gives you the opportunity and freedom to change those things you'd like to change about yourself and create the life you want. Without fully knowing who you are, self acceptance and change become impossible.
MENTAL TRAINING: Mental training is naming and labeling your thoughts. By mentally noting 'sadness', I can think about what "seeds of sadness" I may have been watering. I have become aware of my mental/emotional state and can now make choices.
What seeds will I water? Our mind is a giant slide projector where each thought is a slide. Use the technique of opposition thinking, i.e. When the undesirable thought occupies the focal point of your mind quickly replace it with an uplifting one.
Become aware that you are thinking these undesirable thoughts. Our mind is the world's largest filtering device. Therefore use it properly so that it filters away that is unimportant and gives us only that information which you are looking out at that time, 'your priority'.
MENTAL IMAGING: "Imagination is more powerful than knowledge", AlbertEinstein. YES we can easily use the Power of Imagination for our success.Always hold wonderful pictures in your mind's eyes and imagine your experience before hand because our mind cannot differentiate between the real and the imaginary experience. Our mind has a magnetic power to attract all that we desire into our life.
A moment's thought will show us that unless we know "just what" we desire, we can take no steps toward attaining it on any plane of manifestation. And the more clearly our desires are perceived in our imagination, the clearer is the work of proceeding toward the realization of that desire.
A Mental Image gives you a frame work upon which to work. The minds of the majority of people are more or less blank screens or curtains upon which play the pictures produced there by outside influences, suggestions, environments, etc., for very few people realize their individuality, and are merely reflections of the thoughts and ideas of other people.
Therefore, mastery of the mind opens avenues of hope. We can begin to reshape our life and character, rebuild relationships, thrive in the stress of daily living, become the kind of person we want to be.
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Wednesday, September 5, 2007
No Problem Children------Only Problem Parents
"In a perfect world, parenting would come down to one sentence: Show only love, be only love." Deepak Chopra
There are no such things as Problem children. There are however Problem parents. The problem with parents is:
They go nuts! When they recognize the suppressed parts of themselves being acted out by their children.
They feel inadequate: When they recognize that their children are ready to take risks they were not willing to take.
Their ego is hurt: When they discover that their child is able to overcome obstacles they believed were difficult.
Their authority is challenged: When they understand that their children have the power to do what they make up their minds to do.
AND when their authority is being challenged, they will do anything and everything to keep a child in line. "They will even run the risk of DESTROYING the child's spirit.
The child is made to feel insecure: When the parent is confronted by a child's opinions.
The child is made to feel inadequate: When the parent is confronted by a child's approach.
The child is made to doubt its own self: When the parent is confronted with a child's ability to see the truth, know the truth and speak the truth.
Parents know they are powerful. At times, they stop trusting themselves when they remember what their parents said and did with them. They start feeling insecure thinking that they might do the same.
Until today you may have been raising your child with the same fear and ignorance with which you may have been raised.
OR maybe you may be doing your best to make sure that your children are not raised like you.
JUST FOR TODAY START OBVSERVING YOUR CHILD, HIS STRENGHTS HIS WEAKNESSES. TAKE OUT TIME AND LISTEN TO THEM. SEE THEIR TRUE SELF. REALIZE THAT YOUR CHILDREN OFFER A DIVINE OPPORTUNITY FOR YOU TO GIVE AND TO GET SOME OF THE THINGS YOU MAY HAVE MISSED.
There are no such things as Problem children. There are however Problem parents. The problem with parents is:
They go nuts! When they recognize the suppressed parts of themselves being acted out by their children.
They feel inadequate: When they recognize that their children are ready to take risks they were not willing to take.
Their ego is hurt: When they discover that their child is able to overcome obstacles they believed were difficult.
Their authority is challenged: When they understand that their children have the power to do what they make up their minds to do.
AND when their authority is being challenged, they will do anything and everything to keep a child in line. "They will even run the risk of DESTROYING the child's spirit.
The child is made to feel insecure: When the parent is confronted by a child's opinions.
The child is made to feel inadequate: When the parent is confronted by a child's approach.
The child is made to doubt its own self: When the parent is confronted with a child's ability to see the truth, know the truth and speak the truth.
Parents know they are powerful. At times, they stop trusting themselves when they remember what their parents said and did with them. They start feeling insecure thinking that they might do the same.
Until today you may have been raising your child with the same fear and ignorance with which you may have been raised.
OR maybe you may be doing your best to make sure that your children are not raised like you.
JUST FOR TODAY START OBVSERVING YOUR CHILD, HIS STRENGHTS HIS WEAKNESSES. TAKE OUT TIME AND LISTEN TO THEM. SEE THEIR TRUE SELF. REALIZE THAT YOUR CHILDREN OFFER A DIVINE OPPORTUNITY FOR YOU TO GIVE AND TO GET SOME OF THE THINGS YOU MAY HAVE MISSED.
Saturday, August 18, 2007
Fear Of Failure
Dealing with fear of failure issues
The fear of failure is probably the number one problem holding people back from the success they desire and deserve. Conquering the fear of failure may just be the single most important thing you can do to improve your level of success and achieve your dreams and goals. There are many ways to conquer the fear of failing, and it is important to choose the techniques that best suit your own personality and style.
When dealing with and addressing fear of failure issues, it is important to first understand that such fears are perfectly normal and justified. After all, no one likes to fail, and repeated failures can be enough to make some people stop trying altogether. Although fear of failure may be normal, it is also important to know that it can be overcome.
Many of the most successful people in the worlds of entertainment, business and politics failed repeatedly before they made it big. It is rare indeed to encounter someone who was a true overnight success in any field. Most people got there through hard work and perseverance, and that means they learned to handle rejection and put their fear of failure aside in order to achieve their goals.
The first step in conquering a deep seeded fear of failure is to take a step back and see that failure is not the end of the road. Just because you failed to achieve your goal today does not mean you will not go on to triumph tomorrow. The key is to learn from every setback, and to treat every failure as an opportunity to learn rather than as a reason to stop trying.
A very famous saying," There is nothing called failure, its just an outcome. The day you fail is the day when you try last."
While it is true that if you never try anything new you can eliminate your fear of failure, this technique will not lead to a healthy and fulfilling life. New experiences, whether in the social world, your personal life, or in the business arena is what gives life its spice and spark. Eliminating these important elements of life just because you are afraid you will not succeed, is not the way to a fulfilling life.
Rather, the road to a fulfilling life, a successful business and a rewarding personal life lies in seeing failure as a temporary setback and not a permanent condition. Once you have come to see failure as permanent, it is easy to become depressed and discouraged. If, on the other hand, you see failure as temporary, and use it as a way to learn and grow, your fear of failure will be diminished or even eliminated.
Of course, dealing with fear of failure in this manner is easier said than done, and it will take a lot of work, perseverance and patience to truly overcome a fear of failure. It all boils down to having a positive attitude, and knowing that you can succeed. The people you surround yourself with can have a significant impact on your success as well. For instance, if you choose to surround yourself with people who are negative, or those who think they can never succeed, that bad attitude is bound to rub off on you, and make conquering your fear of failure that much harder.
If, on the other hand, you can surround yourself with positive people, those who express a can do attitude about life, that attitude will be infectious as well. A positive attitude is as easy to spread as a negative one, so try to keep your circle of contacts positive and focused on your goals.
The fear of failure is probably the number one problem holding people back from the success they desire and deserve. Conquering the fear of failure may just be the single most important thing you can do to improve your level of success and achieve your dreams and goals. There are many ways to conquer the fear of failing, and it is important to choose the techniques that best suit your own personality and style.
When dealing with and addressing fear of failure issues, it is important to first understand that such fears are perfectly normal and justified. After all, no one likes to fail, and repeated failures can be enough to make some people stop trying altogether. Although fear of failure may be normal, it is also important to know that it can be overcome.
Many of the most successful people in the worlds of entertainment, business and politics failed repeatedly before they made it big. It is rare indeed to encounter someone who was a true overnight success in any field. Most people got there through hard work and perseverance, and that means they learned to handle rejection and put their fear of failure aside in order to achieve their goals.
The first step in conquering a deep seeded fear of failure is to take a step back and see that failure is not the end of the road. Just because you failed to achieve your goal today does not mean you will not go on to triumph tomorrow. The key is to learn from every setback, and to treat every failure as an opportunity to learn rather than as a reason to stop trying.
A very famous saying," There is nothing called failure, its just an outcome. The day you fail is the day when you try last."
While it is true that if you never try anything new you can eliminate your fear of failure, this technique will not lead to a healthy and fulfilling life. New experiences, whether in the social world, your personal life, or in the business arena is what gives life its spice and spark. Eliminating these important elements of life just because you are afraid you will not succeed, is not the way to a fulfilling life.
Rather, the road to a fulfilling life, a successful business and a rewarding personal life lies in seeing failure as a temporary setback and not a permanent condition. Once you have come to see failure as permanent, it is easy to become depressed and discouraged. If, on the other hand, you see failure as temporary, and use it as a way to learn and grow, your fear of failure will be diminished or even eliminated.
Of course, dealing with fear of failure in this manner is easier said than done, and it will take a lot of work, perseverance and patience to truly overcome a fear of failure. It all boils down to having a positive attitude, and knowing that you can succeed. The people you surround yourself with can have a significant impact on your success as well. For instance, if you choose to surround yourself with people who are negative, or those who think they can never succeed, that bad attitude is bound to rub off on you, and make conquering your fear of failure that much harder.
If, on the other hand, you can surround yourself with positive people, those who express a can do attitude about life, that attitude will be infectious as well. A positive attitude is as easy to spread as a negative one, so try to keep your circle of contacts positive and focused on your goals.
Monday, August 13, 2007
Understand The Problem Before You Diagnose
Suppose u have been having trouble with your eyes and u decide to go to an optometrist for help. After briefly listening to your complaint,he takes off his glasses and hands them to you."
Put these on, "he says. "I've worn this pair of glasses for ten years now and they have helped me, I have an extra pair at home; you can wear these."
So you put them on, but it only makes the problem worse."This is terrible!" you exclaim. I can't see a thing!""Well, that's wrong?" he asks. "
They work great for me. Try harder."" I am trying, " you insist. " everything is a blur.""Well, what's the matter with you? Think positively can't see a thing.""Boy, are you ungrateful!" he chides. " And after all I've done to help you!"
What are the chances you'd go back to that optometrist the next time you needed help? Not very good, I would imagine. You don't have much confidence in someone who doesn't diagnose before he or she prescribes.
We have such a tendency to rush in, to fix things up with good advice. But we often fail to take the time to diagnose, to really, deeply understand the problem first.
If I were to summarize in one sentence the single most important principle I have learned in the field of interpersonal relations, it would be this: seek first to understand, then to be understood. This principle is the key to effective interpersonal communication.
This principle is also true in sales. Diagnosing before you prescribe is also fundamental to law.
A good lawyer almost rights the opposing attorney's case before he rights his own.
A good engineer will understand the forces, the stresses at work before designing the bridge.
A good teacher will assess the class before teaching.
A good student will understand before he applies.
A good parent will understand before evaluating or judging.
The key to good judgment is understanding.
If you want to interact effectively with to influence __ your spouse, your child, your neighbor, your boss, your coworker, your friend____ you first need to understand them.
And you can't do that with technique alone.
If they Sense you are using some technique they sense duplicity, manipulation.
They will wonder why you are doing it, what your motives are and will not feel safe enough to open themselves up to you.
Then as much as they want and even need to receive your love and influence, they will not feel safe enough to expose their opinions and experiences and their tender feelings.
Who knows what will happen? But unless they open up with you, unless you understand them and their unique situations and feelings, you wont know how to advice or counsel them.
What you say is good and fine, but it doesn't quite pertain to them.
You may say you care about and appreciate them when you don't even understand them?
All they have are your words, and they can't trust words.So if you want to be really effective in the habit of interpersonal communication, you cannot do it with technique alone.
You have to first understand, only then you will be understood.
Put these on, "he says. "I've worn this pair of glasses for ten years now and they have helped me, I have an extra pair at home; you can wear these."
So you put them on, but it only makes the problem worse."This is terrible!" you exclaim. I can't see a thing!""Well, that's wrong?" he asks. "
They work great for me. Try harder."" I am trying, " you insist. " everything is a blur.""Well, what's the matter with you? Think positively can't see a thing.""Boy, are you ungrateful!" he chides. " And after all I've done to help you!"
What are the chances you'd go back to that optometrist the next time you needed help? Not very good, I would imagine. You don't have much confidence in someone who doesn't diagnose before he or she prescribes.
We have such a tendency to rush in, to fix things up with good advice. But we often fail to take the time to diagnose, to really, deeply understand the problem first.
If I were to summarize in one sentence the single most important principle I have learned in the field of interpersonal relations, it would be this: seek first to understand, then to be understood. This principle is the key to effective interpersonal communication.
This principle is also true in sales. Diagnosing before you prescribe is also fundamental to law.
A good lawyer almost rights the opposing attorney's case before he rights his own.
A good engineer will understand the forces, the stresses at work before designing the bridge.
A good teacher will assess the class before teaching.
A good student will understand before he applies.
A good parent will understand before evaluating or judging.
The key to good judgment is understanding.
If you want to interact effectively with to influence __ your spouse, your child, your neighbor, your boss, your coworker, your friend____ you first need to understand them.
And you can't do that with technique alone.
If they Sense you are using some technique they sense duplicity, manipulation.
They will wonder why you are doing it, what your motives are and will not feel safe enough to open themselves up to you.
Then as much as they want and even need to receive your love and influence, they will not feel safe enough to expose their opinions and experiences and their tender feelings.
Who knows what will happen? But unless they open up with you, unless you understand them and their unique situations and feelings, you wont know how to advice or counsel them.
What you say is good and fine, but it doesn't quite pertain to them.
You may say you care about and appreciate them when you don't even understand them?
All they have are your words, and they can't trust words.So if you want to be really effective in the habit of interpersonal communication, you cannot do it with technique alone.
You have to first understand, only then you will be understood.
Friday, August 10, 2007
Problems Are Not Your Problem
By Mark Victor Hansen
You see, problems are going to come and go. Your life is not going to be perfect every day. Even if you have the most positive mindset, problems are going to present themselves. That’s a fact. You can’t change it.
What I want you to understand is that PROBLEMS ARE NOT THE PROBLEM. They are just situations that are presented to you. You have two choices when presented with problems: You can see them as destructive, spirit-breaking potholes in the road of life; or you can see them as constructive, mind-expanding opportunities to problem solve and move forward to success. It’s that simple.
Remember: Encountering difficulties is part of life. Count yourself lucky as you’ve been “chosen” to seek out and learn a valuable lesson! The only people who don’t have problems are dead people.
“Claim and believe hard tasks are easy and they will become easier and be accomplished more quickly.”
THIS WEEK’S ACTION STEP
In closing this week, I’d like to offer an exercise to complete in the week ahead:
I want you to look at your life. What do you consider to be problems? What are the problems that you worry about on a daily basis? Take out a journal or notebook and a pen. Sit down and close your eyes. Write them all down. Remember, we’re talking about the present, not the future – that will come soon enough.
Is money an issue? Your physical appearance? Your health? Fear of failure? What is it that you worry about?
Now, look at the problems you have written down. These are the things that you have allowed to have power over you. They have pulled the wool over your eyes and led you to believe that this is where you have to stop thinking – these problems are the end. Instead, start thinking “These problems are just the beginning to new discovery!”
When you were given math homework in school, the teacher didn’t say, “Okay, kids. Take these problems home and worry about them, and tomorrow I’ll give you more problems to worry about.” The teacher said, “Here are the problems. They have answers. Solve them.”
That’s what I want you to do. I want you to take your list and write one problem at the top of a sheet of paper. (Do this for all of them.) Then under each problem write another header: “Solutions”. Now, here’s where the fun starts – yes, it’s going to be fun. I want you to “think outside the glass” and come up with new, creative, crazy solutions to each problem. I don’t care how impossible you believe your solutions are, write them down. Crazy solutions are genius in disguise.
Write 20 solutions for each problem. Afterwards, break each solution down into action steps. Once you’ve done that, I want you to decide which solution you are capable of doing right now, at this very minute. Then do it. Do each action step until you have completed that solution. If your problem is still there, try another solution. Keep going until you have discovered the one that works.
Remember Thomas Edison. Once he was asked what he had to say about the fact that he had failed thousands of times while trying to create the light bulb. Edison said he had never failed, he simply “had to run through enough learning experiences to find a way that worked.”
You see, problems are going to come and go. Your life is not going to be perfect every day. Even if you have the most positive mindset, problems are going to present themselves. That’s a fact. You can’t change it.
What I want you to understand is that PROBLEMS ARE NOT THE PROBLEM. They are just situations that are presented to you. You have two choices when presented with problems: You can see them as destructive, spirit-breaking potholes in the road of life; or you can see them as constructive, mind-expanding opportunities to problem solve and move forward to success. It’s that simple.
Remember: Encountering difficulties is part of life. Count yourself lucky as you’ve been “chosen” to seek out and learn a valuable lesson! The only people who don’t have problems are dead people.
“Claim and believe hard tasks are easy and they will become easier and be accomplished more quickly.”
THIS WEEK’S ACTION STEP
In closing this week, I’d like to offer an exercise to complete in the week ahead:
I want you to look at your life. What do you consider to be problems? What are the problems that you worry about on a daily basis? Take out a journal or notebook and a pen. Sit down and close your eyes. Write them all down. Remember, we’re talking about the present, not the future – that will come soon enough.
Is money an issue? Your physical appearance? Your health? Fear of failure? What is it that you worry about?
Now, look at the problems you have written down. These are the things that you have allowed to have power over you. They have pulled the wool over your eyes and led you to believe that this is where you have to stop thinking – these problems are the end. Instead, start thinking “These problems are just the beginning to new discovery!”
When you were given math homework in school, the teacher didn’t say, “Okay, kids. Take these problems home and worry about them, and tomorrow I’ll give you more problems to worry about.” The teacher said, “Here are the problems. They have answers. Solve them.”
That’s what I want you to do. I want you to take your list and write one problem at the top of a sheet of paper. (Do this for all of them.) Then under each problem write another header: “Solutions”. Now, here’s where the fun starts – yes, it’s going to be fun. I want you to “think outside the glass” and come up with new, creative, crazy solutions to each problem. I don’t care how impossible you believe your solutions are, write them down. Crazy solutions are genius in disguise.
Write 20 solutions for each problem. Afterwards, break each solution down into action steps. Once you’ve done that, I want you to decide which solution you are capable of doing right now, at this very minute. Then do it. Do each action step until you have completed that solution. If your problem is still there, try another solution. Keep going until you have discovered the one that works.
Remember Thomas Edison. Once he was asked what he had to say about the fact that he had failed thousands of times while trying to create the light bulb. Edison said he had never failed, he simply “had to run through enough learning experiences to find a way that worked.”
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