Wednesday, December 26, 2007

Body Language

Emotional Gestures & Contradiction

Interactions and Reactions

• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves an Verbal Context and Content


Other signs of a lie:

• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.

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Monday, December 10, 2007

A paradigm shift in thinking.

Ducks Quack , Eagles Fly
A paradigm shift in thinking.
No one can make you serve customers well. That's because great service is a choice. Years ago, my friend, Adam, told me a wonderful story about a cab driver that proved this point.
He was waiting in line for a ride at the airport. When a cab pulled up, the first thing Adam noticed was that the taxi was polished to a bright shine. Smartly dressed in a khakhi shirt, e, and freshly pressed khakhi slacks, the cab driver jumped out and rounded the car to open the back passenger door for Adam .
He handed my friend a laminated card and said:
"I'm Wally, your driver. While I'm loading your bags in the trunk I'd like you to read my mission statement."
Taken aback, Adam read the card. It said:
Wally's Mission Statement:
To get my customers to their destination in the quickest, safest and cheapest way possible in a friendly environment.
This blew Adam away. Especially when he noticed that the inside of the cab matched the outside. Spotlessly clean!
As he slid behind the wheel, Wally said, "Would you like a cup of coffee? I have a thermos of regular and one of decaf."
My friend said jokingly, "No, I'd prefer a soft drink."
Wally smiled and said, "No problem. I have a cooler up front with regular and Diet Coke, water and orange juice."
Almost stuttering, Adam said, "I'll take a Diet Coke."
Handing him his drink, Wally said, "If you'd like something to read, I have The Times, Sports Illustrated and India Today."
As they were pulling away, Wally handed my friend another laminated card. "These are the stations I get and the music they play, if you'd like to listen to the radio."
And as if that weren't enough, Wally told Adam the best route to his destination for that time of day. He also let him know that he'd be happy to chat and tell him about some of the sights or, if Adam preferred, to leave him with his own thoughts.
"Tell me, Wally," my amazed friend asked the driver, "have you always served customers like this?"
Wally smiled into the rearview mirror. "No, not always. In fact, it's only been in the last two years. My first five years driving, I spent most of my time complaining like all the rest of the cabbies do. Then I heard the personal growth guru, Wayne Dyer, on the radio one day.
He had just written a book called You'll See It When You Believe It. Dyer said that if you get up in the morning expecting to have a bad day, you'll rarely disappoint yourself. He said, 'Stop complaining! Differentiate yourself from your competition. Don't be a duck. Be an eagle. Ducks quack and complain. Eagles soar above the crowd.'"
"That hit me right between the eyes," said Wally. "Dyer was really talking about me. I was always quacking and complaining, so I decided to change my attitude and become an eagle. I looked around at the other cabs and their drivers. The cabs were dirty, the drivers were unfriendly, and the customers were unhappy. So I decided to make some changes. I put in a few at a time. When my customers responded well, I did more."
"I take it that has paid off for you," Adam said.
"It sure has," Wally replied. "My first year as an eagle, I doubled my income from the previous year. This year I'll probably quadruple it. You were lucky to get me today. I don't sit at cabstands anymore. My customers call me for appointments on my cell phone or leave a message on my answering machine. If I can't pick them up myself, I get a reliable cabbie friend to do it and I take a piece of the action."
Wally was phenomenal. He was running a limo service out of a Yellow Cab. I've probably told that story to more than fifty cab drivers over the years, and only two took the idea and ran with it. Whenever I go to their cities, I give them a call. The rest of the drivers quacked like ducks and told me all the reasons they couldn't do any of what I was suggesting.
Wally the Cab Driver made a different choice. He decided to stop quacking like ducks and start soaring like eagles.
How about you?

Wednesday, November 7, 2007

Dealing With Insult

Dealing with insult
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The Buddha explained how to handle insult and maintain compassion.

One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching others," he shouted. "You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake."

Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man "Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?"

The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift."

The Buddha smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself."

"If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy."

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Unleash The Power Of Your Mind

Unleash the power of your mind

Weather/Traffic/ Moods of people......what is the one thing among these that we can have control over? None I suppose, because it is not in our hands to control them BUT YES we can control our emotions and feelings against these through having control over our mind.

"A man who rules his mind rules the world"

How rightly said! Whether it is Physical vitality/Enthusiasm /Self confidence, any thing that is required to succeed in life depends mainly on our mental fitness and our mental agility. Because success on the outside starts with success in the inside. All our success depends on the 12 pounds mass sitting between our shoulders. This 12 pounds mass has lots of potential, lots of positive energy.Every individual is born with the same raw material, then why is it that some of them succeed, some become achievers and some don't? It all depends on how you refine that raw material and how you use it i.e. how you tap the immense potential of your mind and how you use your mind effectively.

Our mind is just like any other muscle of our body and when it comes to'muscles' it is rightly said 'You use it or you loose it' this means that you have to exercise your muscles or else they grow weak.
For ex. if you want to strengthen the muscles of your hand you have to train them, if you want to toughen your leg muscles you have to exert them, etc.
In the same way we can strengthen our mind through certain simple methods like 'Self awareness', 'Mental training', Mental Imaging', and of course a few breathing exercises.

Every thing starts with our thoughts. The quality of our Life is directly proportional to the quality of our thoughts. As Winston Churchill stated that "Price of greatness is to have responsibility over EACH of your thoughts.

" Thoughts act like seeds in the garden of our minds."As you sow, so shall you reap'. If you sow positive thoughts then the result is definitely going to be positive and if you sow thoughts of doubt then life may seem uncertain and the harvest may include questions such as 'Can I succeed' , Will I ever be good enough' , etc.

Negative thoughts lead to negative energy and that in turn causes diseases, destroys relationships andmakes you ineffective.If you hope to make a remarkable improvement in your outer world you need tof irst start within and change the caliber of your thoughts. Because the quality of your thinking determines the quality of your life.

SELF AWARENESS/SELF MASTERY: "Knowing others is intelligence: knowing yourself is wisdom. Mastering others is strength:mastering yourself is true power." Selfawareness is becoming aware of each and every thought. Become your own observer, learn to watch your thoughts coming and going like clouds in the sky,watch how each emotion rises and falls like the waves of the oceans.

As you grow in self awareness, you will better understand why you feel what you feel and why you behave as you behave. That understanding then gives you the opportunity and freedom to change those things you'd like to change about yourself and create the life you want. Without fully knowing who you are, self acceptance and change become impossible.

MENTAL TRAINING: Mental training is naming and labeling your thoughts. By mentally noting 'sadness', I can think about what "seeds of sadness" I may have been watering. I have become aware of my mental/emotional state and can now make choices.

What seeds will I water? Our mind is a giant slide projector where each thought is a slide. Use the technique of opposition thinking, i.e. When the undesirable thought occupies the focal point of your mind quickly replace it with an uplifting one.

Become aware that you are thinking these undesirable thoughts. Our mind is the world's largest filtering device. Therefore use it properly so that it filters away that is unimportant and gives us only that information which you are looking out at that time, 'your priority'.


MENTAL IMAGING: "Imagination is more powerful than knowledge", AlbertEinstein. YES we can easily use the Power of Imagination for our success.Always hold wonderful pictures in your mind's eyes and imagine your experience before hand because our mind cannot differentiate between the real and the imaginary experience. Our mind has a magnetic power to attract all that we desire into our life.

A moment's thought will show us that unless we know "just what" we desire, we can take no steps toward attaining it on any plane of manifestation. And the more clearly our desires are perceived in our imagination, the clearer is the work of proceeding toward the realization of that desire.

A Mental Image gives you a frame work upon which to work. The minds of the majority of people are more or less blank screens or curtains upon which play the pictures produced there by outside influences, suggestions, environments, etc., for very few people realize their individuality, and are merely reflections of the thoughts and ideas of other people.
Therefore, mastery of the mind opens avenues of hope. We can begin to reshape our life and character, rebuild relationships, thrive in the stress of daily living, become the kind of person we want to be.